That is the way it is.
To the dear old souls who are so concerned for us. We see you. To the women who are our age and younger we also see you with your judging steers.
All I can say to you is – Shame on you!
Yes, I can confirm that there is a group of women who are childless regardless of the many hours of painful interventions and longing. And yes some of us have been married for a while now.
All we ask of you is to keep your “ag shame”, “poor dear”, “dear your clocks are running out” and “don’t worry your turn will come” comments to yourself. This does not encourage or empower us but rather belittles us as women. We are no less of a woman just because we do not have children.
Don’t assume that you know our story. Each one of us has a different deeply seeded journey that we are on. Rather pray that God will walk with us and that we find comfort in him.
Many of us have reach a stage in our journey that it’s OK not to have children at this stage, if not any stage of our lives. Just know that we will love our nieces and nephews and our friends children like they are our own. We will babysit them, spoil them and yes be there for them in good and bad times.
Don’t exclude us from the happy news of children coming into this world. We want to be part of this time and yes, even the baby shower if we have not hosted it ourselves.
As a group of women we are not cursed, plagued, fragile or less of a women due to our childlessness. I can assure you that it will not rub off and you are safe to be around us. Treat us as your daughters, your sisters, your cousins, your aunties and the friends that we are.
Stop the discrimination, the mommy only clubs and embrace us like we once were when we ALL didn’t have children.
Let’s bind together as women. Stand up against the injustice of women in our societies. Let’s rally and support each other in all areas of our lives. Let’s be kind, gentle and caring to one another because no one likes a mean girl regardless of their age.
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